We’ve all heard it: the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Well, I’m here to argue that, actually, it is.
Now, if the greener pastures you’re thinking of belong to that girl from high school that you follow on Instagram who only shares the highlights, I can guarantee that it’s not greener over there. I know this not because I know anything about her, but because I know that her grass isn’t about you. She could have the greenest lawn in the whole world and to you it might look purple up close. So, let’s let go of any concept of beautiful greenery that belongs to anyone that isn’t you.
Think for a minute about the place your mind loves to wander off to the most. Does it hop on a bus and move across the country? Does it have a new job? Does it pick up a paint brush and start a new hobby? Does it finally end that toxic relationship? Does it actually go to the gym? Does it give itself a break and permission to relax on the couch for a while? Does it flip the script and start saying only nice things to itself? Seriously, stop and think here: where is the place, near or far, big leap or little footstep, that your mind wants to go?
That place is greener. It’s so much greener over there. I’m not encouraging you to be reckless in pursuing that place. Please watch your step. But I am encouraging you to let go of the fears, doubts, and roadblocks that have stopped you in your tracks so far. It’s not too far away. You can get there. It can happen for you.
If your place is somewhere more social, where you have a lot of genuine friends that you can depend on, but your reality right now is that all your neighbors are jerks, branch out. Go see a movie you’re interested in by yourself. Have lunch at your favorite place by yourself. Participate in that bowling league you’ve always wanted to try. Keep visiting places and doing things that interest you with a smile on your face and an openness to meet someone new and eventually you’ll find a tribe of people who share your interests.
Persist on whatever path it is that leads you to the beautiful space that your heart knows is greener than where you are today. Ask for help if you need it. Get creative with your problem-solving. Stop taking no for an answer. Don’t worry if you don’t get there tomorrow. It’s a journey, that’s for sure. But it’s so, so beautiful over there.